Here are some highlights from our Alumni Reunion! Thank you to all who came out to reminisce and for good times.
Our annual Father’s Day Novena will begin with the 5:00 PM Vigil Mass on Saturday, June 16th , and will conclude with the 6:00 PM Mass on June 24th. A thoughtful way to remember fathers, living and deceased, is by listing names on a Father’s Day envelope. Names will be read at each Mass that is celebrated throughout the Novena. A Father’s Day envelope is included in your regular weekly envelope packet. Addi- tional envelopes and cards will be available from the Knights of Columbus after Masses this weekend and next weekend. You may also stop by the parish office during regular business hours. A suggested offering is $5.00 per name listed.
Gearing up for summer vacation? Consider enrolling in eGiving through Faith Direct to make sure your gifts reach St. Matthias the Apostle when you cannot, and our ministries can continue uninterrupted. Visit www.faithdirect.net and use our church code: MD41. Thank you for your continued support of our parish family!
God Bless You,
What is a novena? “Nine days of public or private prayer for some special occasion or intention.” Its origin goes back to the nine days that the disciples and Mary spent together in prayer between Ascension Thursday and Pentecost Sunday.
Our novena will focus on asking God to bless our living mothers, and to grant eternal rest to our deceased mothers. The novena of Masses for our mothers will be held beginning with the Vigil Mass on May 12th through May 20th. Names of those honored or remembered will be read during the Prayer of the Faithful at each of the Masses during this nine day period.
You may pick up your Mother’s Day Novena Cards and remembrance envelopes at the parish office during regular business hours. Cards will also be available in the church vestibule after Masses this weekend and next weekend. A $ 5.00 offering is suggested for each name submitted to the novena.
The Father Albert Hughes Scholarship was established during the 45th anniversary year (2005) of the parish and in honor of our founding pastor, Father Edward Albert Hughes. Funding for this scholarship program is drawn from the annual fiscal year revenue of the “Every Penny Counts” Box in the parish church. Other donations from benefactors may be periodically received as well and these too are placed into this scholarship fund. Read more about the scholarship here.
To be considered for this scholarship, each family must have a Financial Aid application on file with TADS. All requirements listed on the application must be satisfied in order for an application to be considered. This fund is only available to students whose families are registered in this parish.
Submit this application to the rectory or school office before Tuesday, May 1, 2018 in a sealed envelope addressed:
“Personal and Confidential”
Attention: Reverend John H. Kennealy, Pastor
Father E. Albert Hughes Scholarship Application for 2018-2019
Adult Bible Study will resume on Tuesday, April 10th, at 9:15 AM in the Hughes Center. We are studying the book of Acts and we will pick up on Chapter 17. Please come and bring a friend!
Marian Devotion is held the first Saturday of the month at 12:00 PM in the church. Please join us.
The St. Matthias Prayer Group meets in the church every Sunday immediately after the 11:30 AM Mass. All are welcome.
2018 Annual Jubilarian Mass: Cardinal Donald Wuerl will celebrate the annual Jubilarian Mass honoring couples married 25, 30, 40, 50, and 51+ years on Sunday, June 17, 2018 at 2:00 PM at the Basilica of the National Shrine of the Immaculate Conception. Please call the parish office or use the sign-up forms in the back of church to register. Names of jubilarians need to be turned in to the parish office by Monday, April 16, 2018.
Volunteers are needed to staff the front office in the Hughes Center for 4 hour shifts once or twice a month. Please call Thad Ereme at 301-459-4814 x 207 for more information.
Members of the African Community are remind-ed to pay their annual contribution for the Mothers Day and Fathers Day celebrations. Emmanuel Amanyeiwe and Veronica Ike are collecting your contributions.
Teen Youth Ministry April Meeting: All parish teens are welcome to attend our next meeting this Sunday, April 8th, from 12:00 –2:30 PM in the Hughes Center.
The Catholic Women’s Association meets after the 11:30 AM Mass on the second and fourth Sun-days of the month.
Vigil Mass Saturday, March 24 at 5:00 PM
Mass in Spanish Saturday, March 24 at 7:00 PM
Regular Mass Schedule on Sunday March 25 at 8:00 AM, 9:30 AM, 11:30 AM, 6:00 PM
Monday, March 26 Daily Mass 8:30 AM Adoration 6:00—8:00 PM Confessions 7:00 PM
Tuesday, March 27 Daily Mass 8:30 AM
Wednesday, March 28 Daily Mass 8:30 AM Living Stations 10:30 AM
Holy Thursday, March 29
Mass of the Lord’s Supper 7:30 PM with Eucharistic Adoration Following Mass
Good Friday, March 30 Confessions 10:00 AM-12:00 PM Stations of the Cross 12:00 PM Commemoration of the Lord’s Passion with Veneration and Holy Communion 7:30 PM
Holy Saturday, March 31 Blessing of Food and Baskets 12:00 PM Easter Vigil 8:00 PM (No 5:00 PM or 7:00 PM Masses)
Easter Sunday April 1 Masses at 8:00 AM, 9:30 AM, 11:30 AM, 1:30 PM (Spanish) (NO 6:00 PM Mass)
Grief Brief # 16
As we begin a new grief message this month our focus will be on how children face losses and how they express their grief.
A number of people believe that babies and small children are unaware of a loss that occurs within a family. This is not totally true. Although they don’t understand the concept of death and the loss that ensues, they do sense that something is amiss. Their parents and others are sad , and perhaps weeping. They can easily respond to this with clinging and restless behavior.
As children enter the 2-6 year age ranges they can easily sense the absence of someone loved. They are no longer there within the family or at gatherings. They ask about the person or wait for them to be present once again. There are lots of questions that await answers on their part. They can be told that their special person had become tired, weakened, or ill and has died. They have left the family and friends for a place of rest, peace, and happiness. Children brought up in a Christian home are told that heaven in that special place. God is there, and other deceased family members are there . Their dear ones are all happy and well. It is helpful to reassure children that at some point, as their lives end, they too will be able to see and be with their special persons. This can be comforting to children.
It can be noted that parents who receive the many questions about loss and death may not be able to respond adequately to the questions asked by children. They may be heavily grieving. In which case, adult family members can offer to provide the requested information. The language needs to be simple and offered in the easiest manner possible so that responses to questions are understood. Linking sadness and others feelings of loss to the explanations being given will help children to more easily accept the feelings that they are experiencing. It might be noted that when children grieve, they do so in shorter time periods. They may ask their questions, express their sad feelings , and then be off to do a favorite activity. How different from the sustained periods of grieving that adults experience!
Adolescents, who are experiencing losses of family members or friends, react in a totally different manner. They grieve, but their grief expressions may be deeply internal or very overt. There can be enraged or have a sense of unfairness about the death, especially if it was traumatic, or perhaps marked by suicide. Grief Counselors in the school setting and anguished parents make every effort to reach out and provide comfort. Teens, however, readily turn to peers to express their feelings of loss.
The behavior of teens may express an acting out of their sense of dismay at loosing someone close to them. Behaviors may become reckless, explosive, or repressed by silence and a lack of communication. Adults can offer their presence, caring, and any signs of comfort at this difficult time. Group activities like candlelight vigils or memorial gatherings are helpful, as are offers of individual counseling by professional persons.
As can be seen, expressions of grief, related to losses experienced, will vary with the age groups of children. The support of caring adults, simple answers to questions, and the opportunity to express sad feelings in safe and sincere manners will always be helpful to children, as well as teens. Participating in memorial services and funerals will help to heal grieving hearts in significant ways. Having children participate in these rituals that mark the passage from life to death can bring healing to them, especially if they are prepared for the experience by loving and caring adults.
Breve de Duelo #16
Como Enfrentan los Niños las Pérdidas y Como Expresan su Dolor
AL comenzar un nuevo mensaje de duelo este mes, nuestro enfoque estará en como los niños enfrentan las pérdidas y cómo expresan su dolor. Algunas personas creen que los bebés y los niños pequeños no son consientes de una pérdida que se produce dentro de una familia. Esto no es totalmente cierto. Aunque no entienden el concepto de muerte y la pérdida que se produce, sí tienen la sensación de que algo anda mal. Sus padres y los demás están tristes, y tal vez llorando. Ellos pueden responder fácilmente a esto con un comportamiento apegado e inquieto. Cuando los niños entran en el rango de edad de 2 a 6 años, pueden sentir fácilmente la ausencia de alguien amado. Ya no están allí dentro de la familia o en reuniones. Preguntan por la persona o esperan que vuelvan a estar presentes. Hay muchas preguntas que esperan respuestas de su parte. Se les puede decir que su persona especial se había cansado, debilitado o enfermo y que ha muerto. Han dejando a la familia y amigos por un lugar de descanso, paz y felicidad. A los niños criados en un hogar cristiano se les dice que el cielo en ese lugar especial. Dios está allí, y otros miembros de la familia fallecidos están allí. Sus seres queridos están todos felices y bien. Es útil asegurar a los niños que en algún momento, al terminar sus vidas, ellos también podrán ver y estar con sus personas especiales. Esto puede ser reconfortante para los niños.Se puede observar que los padres que reciben muchas preguntas sobre la pérdida y la muerte pueden no ser capaces de responder adecuadamente a las preguntas de los niños. Pueden estar muy afligidos. En cuyo caso, los miembros adultos de la familia pueden ofrecer proporcionar la información solicitada. El lenguaje debe ser simple y ofrecido de la manera más fácil posible para que se entiendan las respuestas a las preguntas. Relacionar la tristeza y otros sentimientos de pérdida con las explicaciones que se dan ayudará a los niños a aceptar más fácilmente los sentimientos que están experimentando. Cabe señalar que cuando los niños se afligen, lo hacen en períodos de tiempo más cortos. Pueden hacer sus preguntas, expresar sus tristes sentimientos y luego irse a hacer una actividad favorita. ¡Qué diferente de los períodos sostenidos de duelo que experimentan los adultos! Los adolecentes, que están experimentando pérdidas de familiares o amigos, reaccionan de una manera totalmente diferente. Se afligen, pero sus expresiones de dolor pueden ser profundamente internas o muy abiertas. Se puede enfurecer o tener una sensación de injusticia con respecto a la muerte, especialmente si fue traumática, o tal vez marcada por el suicidio. Los consejeros de duelo en el ambiente escolar y los padres angustiados hacen todo lo posible por ayudar y brindar consuelo. Los adolescentes, sin embargo, se vuelven fácilmente hacia sus compañeros para expresar sus sentimientos de pérdida. El comportamiento de los adolescentes puede expresar un sentimiento de consternación al perder a alguien cercano a ellos. Los comportamientos pueden volverse imprudentes, explosivos o reprimidos por el silencio y la falta de comunicación. Los adultos pueden ofrecer su presencia, cuidado y cualquier señal de comodidad en este momento difícil. Las actividades grupales como las vigilias a la luz de las velas o las reuniones conmemorativas son útiles, al igual que las ofertas de asesoramiento individual por parte de profesionales. Como se puede ver, las expresiones de dolor, relacionadas con las pérdidas experimentadas, variarán con los grupos de edad de los niños. El apoyo de adultos comprensivos, las respuestas simples a las preguntas y la oportunidad de expresar sentimientos tristes de manera segura y sincera siempre serán útiles para los niños, así como para los adolescentes. Participar en servicios conmemorativos y funerales ayudará a sanar los corazones en duelo de manera significativa. Hacer que los niños participen en estos rituales que marcan el paso de la vida a la muerte puede traerles sanidad, especialmente si están preparados para la experiencia de amar y cuidar a los adultos.
A new year has begun, the holidays have come and gone, and we who have known loss and are grieving, wonder about what is next. What will the new year bring to our lives? Will there be continued sadness and the keenly-felt sense of loss? Can there be some reprieve?
As grief unfolds and continues to be experienced, it can lighten in intensity. The mere passing of time, however, will not bring about this outcome. It is the work and the efforts one expends in processing one’s grief that will result in needed healing and peacefulness. Healing leads to the relief of the intense sadness, the missing, and the sense that one couldn’t possibly go on and know happiness without the loved one who has died. None of this happens in rapid fashion none-the-less.
People go through their grieving and healing processes in an individual time frame and in their own personal manner. Short cuts, however, will interrupt the on-going process of healing. Comparing one’s progress with that of another is not helpful. Comparisons preclude the fact that we are all individuals, with our own personal histories and rate of grieving.
We read and learn about some basic ways of moving through grief, but as alluded to, we each have our own manner and time frame for doing that. We’ll take this opportunity to refresh our understanding of the grief process. What can or should one do to pass successfully through it?
First and foremost is the need to accept the fact that sadness and a deep sense of missing will occur after a significant loss. We cry, we talk about the emptiness felt in our lives, and question our own ability to go on without the deceased loved one. We accept the challenges that come our way early on, and rejoice over our successes in assuming unfamiliar or difficult tasks. Also, we look at priorities so we can ascertain what will now be important components of our lives. Family, friends, our health, our religious beliefs, and our God hold precedence for many. We look at difficult feelings like anger, regret, guilt, etc. and speak of them with trusted others so we can eventually let them go. And lastly, but not least of all, we reminisce. We remember the place our deceased loved one held in our lives. We express deep gratitude for the many ways they have touched and enriched our lives by being who they were for us.
It is important to remember that the sad memories of the grief process will be felt on special occasions throughout our whole lives, but the sad, painful memories soften over time. They are not as difficult to experience as they were in the early days and weeks of grieving.
A new year has begun! We can realize that with the healing energy acquired during past months of grieving we are better prepared for new undertakings, new pursuits, and a new future awaiting the “renewed and healed us”.