The first grief note posted ended with the thought that family and friends can be the sustaining force and a great source of strength for those who are grieving. Because the grieving process is long, with some days being more difficult than others a support team is a must. Members of that team need not entail a multiplicity of persons. As few as 2 or 3 persons with caring hearts, ears willing to listen when the need arises, and a ready spirit to be there for you will suffice.
Because family members are themselves grieving persons, having trusted friends could be very helpful to form your support team. It is amazing how friends from one’s past can serve as the needed support persons. If your support persons have themselves experienced a loss or losses in their lives, this is a plus. They will be able to readily relate to your experiences.
In selecting your support team members the persons to be avoided are those who believe that they can “fix you” as you proceed into the future with your life. Those who impose suggestions, give what they consider to be wise counsel, the criticizers, and those who would rush you through your grief are to be eliminated from your list of support persons.
Take enough time to select well, and by all means ask our dear God for the wisdom to know who best will assist you. Having caring others to accompany you as you grieve, no matter how long the journey takes, is a true gift. Once you have received the commitment of your support team, be sure to express your gratitude to them periodically for the gift that their presence is to you.