Grief Brief # 20
As we move through the holidays this year, including- Christmas, Hanukkah,
Kwanza, and New Years, my hope, prayer, and wishes are that you, the readers of this message, have been able to capture the essence of the season. With the support and caring of friends and family, persons who are grieving can experience the joy of the holidays.
Some important things to remember about holiday celebrations are reviewed at this time.
• Where someone is in their grieving process will certainly affect how he or she will experience the various occasions. Those in the early phase of their loss (the first 5 months or so) can let each holiday pass them by without engaging in too much celebrating. During the mid– grieving point holidays can receive a half-hearted reception. When the healing that grief provides has come, in a later point of grief, the festivities are more easily accepted and celebrated.
• The process of facing a significant loss, as any grieving person knows, can consume a lot of personal energy. Therefore, simplifying holiday celebrations is a must.
• Planning one’s celebrations in collaboration with family members and friends can more easily guarantee happy times and some real joy as each significant day comes and passes.
• Accepting the efforts of others, with reasonable but marginal contributions on the part of the grieving person, can bring about, as well as honor, some of the traditions of the past.
And so, open your hearts to the joy and meaning of the season. Doing what feels right in your heart can bring you the wonders of these special days, as they come one by one.