Grief Briefs Part 3
The holidays are fast approaching and, no doubt, have induced a lot of concern among grieving persons. Because the holidays of : Thanksgiving, Hanukka, Christmas, Kwanza, and New Years entail a coming together of friends and family, the absence of a significant other who has died is keenly felt.
To manage some of the stress-filled and foreboding thoughts and feelings regarding holiday celebrations it is wise to approach each event one by one. Looking at what one will do to prepare for each special occasion requires a peaceful spirit and a practical mindset. Things this year, and years to come, will be different. There is a deep absence felt.
Planning ahead in one’s own mind is quite important-“What do I want to do?”, “How do I want events to unfold so that I am comfortable?” Including family and friends in the planning process is also very necessary. A rule of thumb is to simplify what is done and how it will be done. All need to be involved in the planning and the carrying out of the plans upon which the majority agree. Some will believe that all can go on “just as it used to be” Not so! Someone will be missing. What will not and should not change, however, is the coming together of friends and family members to share love and caring
Caring for oneself is a very necessary part of getting through the holidays with ease and grace. Consider what will be helpful and healing to you and choose that. Holidays are not a time for the grieving person to be alone or to retreat from all that could bring joy.
To share some of the ideas just discussed, St. Matthias is hosting its annual Pre-Holiday Workshop , to be held on November 19th ( the Saturday before Thanksgiving) from 10 AM to 12 Noon at its school. All grieving persons and their loved ones are welcomed to attend.
The address is: St. Matthias School 9475 Annapolis Rd. Lanham, MD 20770
If you would like more information feel free to contact: Miriam Jacik, the Grief Coordinator at (301) 345-6054, or just feel free to join us at the workshop.