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Thursday, November 1st, is the Solemnity of All Saints, a Holy Day of Obligation. Masses will be celebrated at 8:30 AM, 12:00 PM, 7:00 PM, and 8:15 PM (in Spanish).

The Annual Mass of Remembrance, commemorating the souls of our faithful departed, will be celebrated on November 3rd at the Saturday Vigil Mass at 5:00 PM. All are welcome as we remember those who have died this past year and pray for their families who mourn the loss of their loved ones.

The Parish Social Life Committee invites you to a Multicultural Festival next Saturday, September 8th, from 12:00-4:00 PM. Raffle tickets are available at $ 5 each or 3 for $10. Prizes include a microwave oven, television, tablet, and a $100 Amazon gift card. Tickets may be purchased from PSLC members or at the parish office. We now have Festival T-shirts available in sizes for every member of your family. The cost is $15.00 for adult sizes, and $ 10.00 for youth. Shirts may be purchased after Mass or in the Hughes Center dur- ing regular business hours.

We begin this Grief Brief with the often asked question: “How long will this grieving last?” The simple response is that it will last for as long as is needed for each individual person.  People grieve for as long as it takes to heal from a very difficult life event – the loss of a loved one or some other significant loss.

The length of one’s grieving time depends on many factors.  Those who have accompanied a loved through a long illness, perhaps as the caregiver, have already done some of their grieving- but not all. They grieve for as long as is necessary after the death.  Sudden deaths, because they entail no time to prepare, may require that one experience grief for a  longer timeframe, depending upon circumstances.  Traumatic deaths from shootings, stabbings, suicides, accidents, natural disasters, drug overdoses, or the tragedies of war usually have an extended period of grieving because of the grave circumstances of the deaths. The nature of one’s relationship with the deceased will certainly impact grieving time, as well.

Waiting solely for time to pass will not bring about the healing from grief that is necessary or required to enable one to go on with his or her life in a meaningful manner.  Losses require grief work, and that is exactly what it is –work.  It is helpful to realize that grief work requires experiencing all of the feelings that the loss has stirred up.  Speaking to trusted others about one’s loss is helpful. Writing out one’s feelings helps as well.  Reminiscing about the time spent with the loved one, remembering that person on special occasions, and celebrating the life of the person in some special manner will all be a necessary part of the grief work that one does.

When considering time and grieving it is important to look at the phases of time – yesterday, today, and tomorrow.  It is comforting initially to return to memories of the no-too-distant past, for it is there that the sad, but recent, memories of the loved  one  are.  Remaining in the sadness of the past can deepen one’s personal sadness.  It can perhaps lead to a period of depression which may exist for a longer period of time.

For grieving persons the future is a big unknown.  How life will unfold and progress is quite unclear.  Worrying about what will be or what could happen can easily lead to increased stress, fears, and anxiety. Projecting what the future will bring,  too early in grief,  is not helpful.

The present is the best place where one can direct one’s attention and energy. The benefits to one’s well-being will thus be significant. Focusing on what is now, as opposed to what was or will be, can aid the grieving person to face life events one day at a time. This can insure a smoother and more effective passage through one’s grief journey.

A good suggestion might be to visit the past for briefer time periods as grieving progresses.  Trying to project future outcomes for one’s life too soon, can deepen one’s anxiety about “moving on”. The present ,therefore, is the time frame into which one can place one’s efforts at survival, healing, and growth. Stay there, for it is where your heart dictates that you should remain.

 

 

Breve de Duelo #19: Cuanto Tiempo Va Durar este Duelo?- Comenzamos este Resumen de duelo con la pregunta que se hace a menudo: “¿Cuánto tiempo durará este duelo?” La respuesta simple es que durará todo el tiempo que sea necesario para cada persona. Las personas se afligen por el tiempo que lleva curarse de un evento de la vida muy difícil: la pérdida de un ser querido o alguna otra pérdida significativa. La duración del tiempo de duelo depende de muchos factores. Aquellos que han acompañado a un ser querido a través de una larga enfermedad, tal vez como cuidador, ya han hecho parte de su dolor, pero no todos. Se afligen durante el tiempo que sea necesario después de la muerte. Las muertes repentinas, debido a que no requieren tiempo para prepararse, pueden requerir que uno experimente el dolor durante un período de tiempo más prolongado, según las circunstancias. Las muertes traumáticas por disparos, apuñalamientos, suicidios, accidentes, desastres naturales, sobredosis de drogas o las tragedias de ;a guerra suelen tener un período prolongado de duelo debido a las graves circunstancias de las muertes. La naturaleza de la relación de uno con el difunto ciertamente también afectara el tiempo de duelo. Esperar únicamente para que pase el tiempo no provocará la curación de la pena que es necesaria o requerida para permitirle a uno continuar con su vida de una manera significativa. Las pérdidas requieren un trabajo de duelo, y eso es exactamente lo que es: el trabajo. Es útil darse cuenta de que el trabajo de duelo requiere experimentar todos los sentimientos que ha despertado la pérdida. Hablar con otros sobre la perdida de uno es útil. Escribir los sentimientos de uno también ayuda. Recordar el tiempo que paso con el ser querido, recordar a esa persona en ocasiones especiales y celebrar la vida de la persona de laguna manera especial será una parte necesaria del trabajo de duelo que uno hace. Cuando se considera el tiempo y el dolor, es importante observar las fases del tiempo: ayer, hoy, y mañana. Inicialmente, es reconfortante volver a los recuerdos del pasado no muy lejano, porque es allí donde se encuentran los recuerdos tristes, pero recientes, de la persona amada. Permanecer en la tristeza del pasado puede profundizar la tristeza personal. Tal vez puede conducir a un período de depresión que puede existir durante un período de tiempo más largo. Para las personas en duelo el futuro es una gran incógnita. ¿Cómo se desarrollará la vida y el progreso es bastante claro. Preocuparse por lo que será o lo que podría suceder puede conducir fácilmente a un aumento del estrés, los temores y la ansiedad. Proyectar lo que el futuro traerá, demasiado temprano en el dolor, no es útil. El presente es el mejor lugar donde uno puede dirigir su atención y energía. Los beneficios para el bienestar de uno serán, por lo tanto, significativos. Centrarse en lo que es ahora, a diferencia de lo que fue o será, puede ayudar a la persona afligida a enfrentar los eventos de la vida de un día a la vez. Esto puede asegurar un paso más suave y efectivo a través del viaje de la pena. Una buena sugerencia podría ser visitar el pasado por períodos de tiempo más breves a medida que avanza la aflicción. Tratar de proyectar resultados futuros para la vida de uno demasiado pronto, puede profundizar la ansiedad de uno sobre “seguir adelante”. El presente, por lo tanto, es el marco de tiempo en el que uno puede ubicar sus esfuerzos de supervivencia, curación y crecimiento. Quédate allí, porque es donde tu corazón dicta que debes permanecer.

 

 

 

On behalf of Bishop Roberto Mallari, DD, from the Diocese of San Jose, Nueva Ecija, Philippines, Father Getty Ferrer is conducting the Mission Appeal at St. Matthias this weekend. The Diocese of San Jose is located 160 km. north of Manila, with a population of 789,000. It is mostly an agricultural community with poor tenant-farmers producing rice, corn, onions, fruits and vegetables. Annually typhoons devastate the rice crops of many poor farmers. The Diocese humbly asks for and relies on your generosity in order to support and sustain their pastoral programs and outreach activities.

Thank you for your generous response to our Appeal!

Faith Formation: St. Matthias is in great need of Catechists to help our young people learn the faith and grow in their personal relationship with Jesus. We are looking at the real possibility of not being able to offer all the grades next school year. Is the Holy Spirit calling you to help build the kingdom of God here at St. Matthias? God will not allow you to outdo him in generosity! Faith Formation classes meet on Monday nights. Help is available to prepare for this important ministry in the Church. Please call Catherine Tolnay, Director of Faith Formation, at 301-459-4814 ext. 205 to discuss the possibility of volunteering.

upcoming eventsItems of Note at St. Matthias

  • First Friday Mass is July 6th at 8:30 AM. There will be no refreshments after Mass as several pa- rishioners who provide food will be on vacation. Our social gathering after the first Friday Mass will resume on August 3rd.
  • Adult Bible Study: The St. Matthias Adult Bible Study meets on Wednesdays from 7:00—8:30 PM in the Hughes Center. Please come and bring a friend! There is no Bible Study class on July 4th.
  • Adult Faith Formation Opportunity: Please join us on Tuesday, July 10th, for a DVD presentation and discussion on “The Mystery of the Magi”. On following Tuesdays, July 17th and 24th, join us for presentations and discussions on “The Witness of Early Christian Women”. We will meet in the Hughes Center from 9:15-10:30 AM. Please come and bring a friend for one Tuesday or all three.
  • Save the Date: The Parish Social Life Committee invites you to a Multicultural Festival on Saturday, September 8th. Raffle tickets are available at $ 5 each or 3 for $10. Prizes include a microwave oven, television, tablet, and a $100 Amazon gift card. Tickets may be purchased from PSLC members or at the parish office.
  • Our Monthly Marian Devotion will take place next Saturday, July 7th, at 7:30 AM in the church. Join us for this special devotion led by Father Canice, and stay for the 8:30 AM Mass.
  • Friendship Hall: It’s time to book your event for 2019. Please call Thad Ereme at 301-459-4814 x 207 for information and availability.
  • The Parish Office will be closed Wednesday, July 4th, in observance of Independence Day.
    The office will re-open Thursday, July 5th, at 8:00 AM.

Multicultural FestivalSave the Date: The Parish Social Life Committee invites you to a Multicultural Festival on Saturday, September 8th. Raffle tickets are available at $ 5 each or 3 for $10. Prizes include a microwave oven, television, tablet, and a $100 Amazon gift card. Tickets may be purchased from PSLC members or at the parish office.

Read more about the Parish Social Life Committee here.

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Mass Times / Horario de Misas

Saturday Vigil / Vigilia del Sábado
5:00 PM
7:00 PM (en español)
Sunday / Domingo
8:00 AM
9:30 AM
11:30 AM
6:00 PM
Daily Mass Schedule / Misa Diaria
Monday – Saturday / Lunes-Sabado
8:30 AM
Holy Days of Obligation / Días Santos de Obligación
7:00 AM
12:00 PM
7:30 PM
*unless otherwise announced / *A menos que se anuncie algo diferente.

Devotions

Adoration / Adoración
Monday / Lunes 6:00 PM – 8:00 PM
Confession / Confesiones
Monday / Lunes 7:00 PM – 8:00 PM
Benediction / Bendición
Monday / Lunes 7:45 PM

Fr Jack’s Challenge