Save the Date: The Parish Social Life Committee invites you to a Multicultural Festival on Saturday, September 8th. Raffle tickets are available at $ 5 each or 3 for $10. Prizes include a microwave oven, television, tablet, and a $100 Amazon gift card. Tickets may be purchased from PSLC members or at the parish office.
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As we explore sadness, depression, and grief, we who are grieving have come to know the pervasiveness of sadness within the grief journey. It is sometimes hard to believe that the intense feelings of absence, aloneness, and missing will ever lighten. What we do with these feelings is important.
Sadness is felt more strongly during the early months of grieving quite often, if not daily. Equating one’s degree of sadness with the degree of love and affection one had for the person who is no longer tangibly with us, helps us to move more easily through the depth of the sadness. Choosing to remain in the sadness for long periods of time can easily lead to a depression known to some grievers. They will visit and revisit their feelings of sadness, missing, and aloneness in order to feel closer to the person they have lost. As mentioned, remaining there is not helpful. Some feel it is a way to never forget the person lost. The truth is that forgetting persons with whom we have shared days, months, and years of our lives does not easily happen.
There will always be occasions like birthdays, anniversaries, or special family events when remembering with sadness will be felt. The consoling reality is that, in time, the sadness will lighten, as it should.
However, when the sadness, related to the losses we have faced, remains intense for long periods of time (weeks or months) it can incapacitate a person physically, emotionally, spiritually, and socially. Then depression has truly set in, that is the depression of grief. In situations like this the grieving persons will not freely admit to the degree of depression they are experiencing, but it may become evident to those with whom they live. In such circumstances there is a need for professional help. Medications, personal counseling, the support of a trusted friend or mentor, as well as a grief support group can be helpful. These interventions can prevent the grieving person from sinking more deeply into his or her sorrow, depression, or despair.
M any grieving persons are wary of taking medications like anti-depressants, sleep medications, anti-anxiety pills, etc. for fear of becoming dependent upon them, as can happen. Knowing that medications can help to take the edge off of the overpowering feelings being felt can ease the fears of addiction. It is important to realize that as the intense feelings lessen so will the need for the medications also lessen.
In truth, as helpful as medications can, be they can dampen the many feelings that accompany the grief process. Feelings like anger, guilt, regret, unforgiveness, and depression do need to be looked at, internally processed, and talked about with a trusted other so we can let them go. Blocking feelings for too long with many medications, denial, or even over-activity will certainly interfere with the healing that grief work can bring.
So, in conclusion, know that we will be sad, or maybe even depressed over the loss of someone special in our lives. Remaining in the sadness or the depression of grief for too long is certainly not helpful to grieving persons. Acquiring the assistance of a professional person can sometimes be needed. Overall, sadness is much a part of grieving a loss because we realize that we have lost someone that we have truly loved.
Here are some highlights from our Alumni Reunion! Thank you to all who came out to reminisce and for good times.
Our annual Father’s Day Novena will begin with the 5:00 PM Vigil Mass on Saturday, June 16th , and will conclude with the 6:00 PM Mass on June 24th. A thoughtful way to remember fathers, living and deceased, is by listing names on a Father’s Day envelope. Names will be read at each Mass that is celebrated throughout the Novena. A Father’s Day envelope is included in your regular weekly envelope packet. Addi- tional envelopes and cards will be available from the Knights of Columbus after Masses this weekend and next weekend. You may also stop by the parish office during regular business hours. A suggested offering is $5.00 per name listed.
Faith Formation: St. Matthias is in great need of Catechists to help our young people learn the faith and grow in their personal relationship with Jesus. We are looking at the real possibility of not being able to offer all the grades next school year. Is the Holy Spirit calling you to help build the kingdom of God here at St. Matthias? God will not allow you to outdo him in generosity! Faith Formation classes meet on Monday nights. Help is available to prepare for this important ministry in the Church. Please call Catherine Tolnay, Director of Faith Formation, at 301-459-4814 ext. 205 to discuss the possibility of volunteering.
Gearing up for summer vacation? Consider enrolling in eGiving through Faith Direct to make sure your gifts reach St. Matthias the Apostle when you cannot, and our ministries can continue uninterrupted. Visit www.faithdirect.net and use our church code: MD41. Thank you for your continued support of our parish family!
God Bless You,
What is a novena? “Nine days of public or private prayer for some special occasion or intention.” Its origin goes back to the nine days that the disciples and Mary spent together in prayer between Ascension Thursday and Pentecost Sunday.
Our novena will focus on asking God to bless our living mothers, and to grant eternal rest to our deceased mothers. The novena of Masses for our mothers will be held beginning with the Vigil Mass on May 12th through May 20th. Names of those honored or remembered will be read during the Prayer of the Faithful at each of the Masses during this nine day period.
You may pick up your Mother’s Day Novena Cards and remembrance envelopes at the parish office during regular business hours. Cards will also be available in the church vestibule after Masses this weekend and next weekend. A $ 5.00 offering is suggested for each name submitted to the novena.
The Father Albert Hughes Scholarship was established during the 45th anniversary year (2005) of the parish and in honor of our founding pastor, Father Edward Albert Hughes. Funding for this scholarship program is drawn from the annual fiscal year revenue of the “Every Penny Counts” Box in the parish church. Other donations from benefactors may be periodically received as well and these too are placed into this scholarship fund. Read more about the scholarship here.
To be considered for this scholarship, each family must have a Financial Aid application on file with TADS. All requirements listed on the application must be satisfied in order for an application to be considered. This fund is only available to students whose families are registered in this parish.
Submit this application to the rectory or school office before Tuesday, May 1, 2018 in a sealed envelope addressed:
“Personal and Confidential”
Attention: Reverend John H. Kennealy, Pastor
Father E. Albert Hughes Scholarship Application for 2018-2019