Saint Matthias the Apostle

Catholic Church

Faith Formation: St. Matthias is in great need of Catechists to help our young people learn the faith and grow in their personal relationship with Jesus. We are looking at the real possibility of not being able to offer all the grades next school year. Is the Holy Spirit calling you to help build the kingdom of God here at St. Matthias? God will not allow you to outdo him in generosity! Faith Formation classes meet on Monday nights. Help is available to prepare for this important ministry in the Church. Please call Catherine Tolnay, Director of Faith Formation, at 301-459-4814 ext. 205 to discuss the possibility of volunteering.

upcoming eventsItems of Note at St. Matthias

  • First Friday Mass is July 6th at 8:30 AM. There will be no refreshments after Mass as several pa- rishioners who provide food will be on vacation. Our social gathering after the first Friday Mass will resume on August 3rd.
  • Adult Bible Study: The St. Matthias Adult Bible Study meets on Wednesdays from 7:00—8:30 PM in the Hughes Center. Please come and bring a friend! There is no Bible Study class on July 4th.
  • Adult Faith Formation Opportunity: Please join us on Tuesday, July 10th, for a DVD presentation and discussion on “The Mystery of the Magi”. On following Tuesdays, July 17th and 24th, join us for presentations and discussions on “The Witness of Early Christian Women”. We will meet in the Hughes Center from 9:15-10:30 AM. Please come and bring a friend for one Tuesday or all three.
  • Save the Date: The Parish Social Life Committee invites you to a Multicultural Festival on Saturday, September 8th. Raffle tickets are available at $ 5 each or 3 for $10. Prizes include a microwave oven, television, tablet, and a $100 Amazon gift card. Tickets may be purchased from PSLC members or at the parish office.
  • Our Monthly Marian Devotion will take place next Saturday, July 7th, at 7:30 AM in the church. Join us for this special devotion led by Father Canice, and stay for the 8:30 AM Mass.
  • Friendship Hall: It’s time to book your event for 2019. Please call Thad Ereme at 301-459-4814 x 207 for information and availability.
  • The Parish Office will be closed Wednesday, July 4th, in observance of Independence Day.
    The office will re-open Thursday, July 5th, at 8:00 AM.

A Memorial Mass for long-time parishioner, Emma Graham, will be held Saturday, June 30th, at 10:00 a.m. at St. Matthias the Apostle Church, 9475 Annapolis Road, Lanham, MD.  Please keep the family in your thoughts and prayers.

Multicultural FestivalSave the Date: The Parish Social Life Committee invites you to a Multicultural Festival on Saturday, September 8th. Raffle tickets are available at $ 5 each or 3 for $10. Prizes include a microwave oven, television, tablet, and a $100 Amazon gift card. Tickets may be purchased from PSLC members or at the parish office.

Read more about the Parish Social Life Committee here.

Support St. Matthias Parish by advertising on the back cover of our bulletin. We are grateful to the local sponsors who currently advertise their companies and services. Local sponsorship ensures that our bulletins are published and distributed at no cost to the parish. For advertising information, please call 1-800-233-8200.

As we explore sadness, depression, and grief, we who are grieving have come to know the pervasiveness of sadness within the grief journey.  It is sometimes hard to believe that the intense feelings of absence, aloneness, and missing will ever lighten.  What we do with these feelings is important.

Sadness is felt more strongly during the early months of grieving  quite often, if not daily.  Equating one’s degree of sadness with the degree of love and affection one had for the person who is no longer tangibly with us, helps us to move more easily through the depth of the sadness.  Choosing to remain in the sadness for long periods of time can easily lead to a depression known to some grievers.  They will visit and revisit their feelings of sadness, missing, and aloneness in order to feel closer to the person they have lost.  As mentioned, remaining there is not helpful.  Some feel it is a way to never forget the person lost. The truth is that forgetting persons with whom  we have shared days, months, and years of our lives does not easily happen.

There will always be occasions like birthdays, anniversaries, or special family events when remembering with sadness will be felt.  The consoling reality is that, in time, the sadness will lighten, as it should.

However, when the sadness, related to the losses we have faced, remains intense for long periods of time (weeks or months) it can incapacitate a person physically, emotionally, spiritually, and socially. Then depression has truly set in, that is the depression of grief.  In situations like this the grieving persons will not freely admit to the degree of depression they are experiencing, but it may become evident to those with whom they live.  In such circumstances there is a  need for professional help.  Medications, personal counseling, the support of a trusted friend or mentor, as well as a grief support group can be helpful.  These interventions can prevent the grieving person from sinking more deeply into his or her sorrow, depression, or despair.

M any grieving persons are wary of taking medications like anti-depressants, sleep medications, anti-anxiety pills, etc. for fear of becoming dependent upon them, as can happen.  Knowing that medications  can help to take the edge off of the overpowering feelings being felt can ease the fears of addiction.  It is important to realize that as the intense feelings lessen  so will the need for the medications also lessen.

In truth, as helpful as medications can, be they can dampen the many feelings that accompany  the grief process.  Feelings like anger, guilt, regret, unforgiveness, and depression do need to be looked at, internally processed, and talked about with a trusted other so we can let them go.  Blocking  feelings   for too long with many medications, denial, or even over-activity will certainly interfere with the healing that grief work can bring.

So, in conclusion, know that we will be sad, or maybe even depressed over the loss of someone special in our lives.  Remaining in the sadness or the depression of grief for too long is certainly not helpful to grieving persons.  Acquiring the assistance of a professional person can sometimes be needed.  Overall, sadness is much a part of grieving a loss because we realize that we have lost someone that we have truly loved.

 

Breve de Duelo #17

A medida que exploramos la tristeza, la depresión y el dolor, los que sufrimos hemos llegado a conocer la omnipresencia de la tristeza en el camino de dolor. A veces es difícil creer que los intensos sentimientos de ausencia, soledad y falta de ausencia, soledad y lata de alguna vez se aclararán. Lo que hacemos con estos sentimientos es importante. La tristeza se siente con más fuerza durante los primeros meses de duelo con bastante frecuencia, si no todos los días. Al equiparar el grado de tristeza de uno con el grado de amor y afecto que uno siente por las persona que ya no es tangible con nosotros, nos ayuda a movernos más fácilmente a través de la tristeza. La elección de permanecer en la tristeza durante largos periodos de tiempo puede llevar fácilmente a una depresión conocida por algunos quejarse. Visitarán y volverán a sus sentimientos de tristeza, falta y soledad para sentirse más cerca de la persona que han perdido. Como se mencionó, permanecer allí no es útil. Algunos sienten que es forma de nunca olvidar a la persona perdida. La verdad es que olvidar a la personas que quienes compartimos días, meses y años de nuestras vidas no sucede fácilmente. Siempre habrá ocasiones como cumpleaños, aniversarios o eventos familiares especiales cuando se sentirá el recuerdo con tristeza. La realidad consoladora es que, con el tiempo, la tristeza se aligerara, como debe ser.  Sin embargo, cuando la tristeza, relacionada con las pérdidas que hemos enfrentado, permanece intensa durante largos períodos de tiempo (semanas o meses), puede incapacitar a una persona físicamente, emocional, espiritualmente y socialmente. Entonces la depresión realmente se ha establecido, esa es la depresión del dolor. En situaciones como esta, las personas afligidas no admitirán libremente el grado de depresión que experimentan, pero puede ser evidente para las personas con quienes viven. En tales circunstancias se necesita ayuda profesional. Los medicamentos, el asesoramiento personal, el apoyo de un amigo o mentor de confianza, así como  un grupo de apoyo para el duelo pueden ser útiles. Estas intervenciones pueden evitar que la persona afligida se hunda más profundamente en su dolor, depresión o desesperación. Muchas personas afligidas temen tomar medicamentos como los antidepresivos, los medicamentos para dormir, las pastillas contra la ansiedad, etc., por temor a volverse dependientes de ellos, como puede suceder. Saber que los medicamentos pueden ayudar a eliminar los sentimientos abrumadores que se sienten puede aliviar los temores de la adicción. Es importante darse cuneta de que a medida que disminuyen los sentimientos intensos, también disminuirá la necesidad de medicamentos.  En verdad, tan útiles como pueden ser los medicamentos, pueden amortiguar los muchos sentimientos que acompañan el proceso de duelo. Los sentimientos como la ira, la culpa, el arrepentimiento, la falta de perdón y la depresión deben ser examinados, procesados ​​internamente y discutidos con alguien de confianza para que podamos dejarlos ir. Bloquear los sentimientos durante demasiado tiempo con muchos medicamentos, rechazo o incluso actividad excesiva sin duda interferirá con la curación que puede traer el trabajo de la pena. Entonces, para concluir, sepa que estaremos tristes, o tal vez incluso deprimidos por la pérdida de alguien especial en nuestras vidas. Permanecer en la tristeza o la depresión de la pena durante mucho tiempo ciertamente no es útil para las personas en duelo. La adquisición de la asistencia de una persona profesional a veces puede ser necesaria. En general, la tristeza es una parte importante de la pérdida de un duelo porque nos damos cuenta de que hemos perdido a alguien a quien realmente amamos.

 

 

Our annual Father’s Day Novena will begin with the 5:00 PM Vigil Mass on Saturday, June 16th , and will conclude with the 6:00 PM Mass on June 24th. A thoughtful way to remember fathers, living and deceased, is by listing names on a Father’s Day envelope. Names will be read at each Mass that is celebrated throughout the Novena. A Father’s Day envelope is included in your regular weekly envelope packet. Addi- tional envelopes and cards will be available from the Knights of Columbus after Masses this weekend and next weekend. You may also stop by the parish office during regular business hours. A suggested offering is $5.00 per name listed.

The St. Matthias Parish Office and School will be closed Monday, May 28th, in observance of Memorial Day.

 

Daily Mass will be celebrated at 8:30 AM 

Adoration will be held from 6:00—8:00 PM 

Confessions 7:00—7:45 PM

Mass Times / Horario de Misas

Saturday Vigil / Vigilia del Sábado
5:00 PM
7:00 PM (en español)
Sunday / Domingo
8:00 AM
9:30 AM
11:30 AM
6:00 PM
Daily Mass Schedule / Misa Diaria
Monday – Saturday / Lunes-Sabado
8:30 AM
Holy Days of Obligation / Días Santos de Obligación
7:00 AM
12:00 PM
7:30 PM
*unless otherwise announced / *A menos que se anuncie algo diferente.

Devotions

Adoration / Adoración
Monday / Lunes 6:00 PM – 8:00 PM
Confession / Confesiones
Monday / Lunes 7:00 PM – 8:00 PM
Benediction / Bendición
Monday / Lunes 7:45 PM

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