A Mass of Christian Burial will be held at St. Matthias Church on Saturday, March 24, 2018, at 11:00 a.m. Arrangements are provided by Advent Funeral Home, 9013 Annapolis Rd., Lanham, MD. Visitation hours at the funeral home are 2:00 – 4:00 p.m. and 6:00-8:00 p.m. on Friday, March 23, 2018. Burial will be at a later date at Arlington National Cemetery. Please keep the Falls family in your thoughts and prayers.
A Mass of Christian Burial will be held for James Fletcher here at St. Matthias Church on Monday, March 19th, at 11:00 a.m. The family will receive visitors in the church beginning at 10:00 a.m. Burial will follow the service at National Harmony Memorial Park, 7101 Sheriff Road, Hyattsville, Maryland 20785.
Vigil Mass Saturday, March 24 at 5:00 PM
Mass in Spanish Saturday, March 24 at 7:00 PM
Regular Mass Schedule on Sunday March 25 at 8:00 AM, 9:30 AM, 11:30 AM, 6:00 PM
Monday, March 26 Daily Mass 8:30 AM Adoration 6:00—8:00 PM Confessions 7:00 PM
Tuesday, March 27 Daily Mass 8:30 AM
Wednesday, March 28 Daily Mass 8:30 AM Living Stations 10:30 AM
Holy Thursday, March 29
Mass of the Lord’s Supper 7:30 PM with Eucharistic Adoration Following Mass
Good Friday, March 30 Confessions 10:00 AM-12:00 PM Stations of the Cross 12:00 PM Commemoration of the Lord’s Passion with Veneration and Holy Communion 7:30 PM
Holy Saturday, March 31 Blessing of Food and Baskets 12:00 PM Easter Vigil 8:00 PM (No 5:00 PM or 7:00 PM Masses)
Easter Sunday April 1 Masses at 8:00 AM, 9:30 AM, 11:30 AM, 1:30 PM (Spanish) (NO 6:00 PM Mass)
Grief Brief # 16
As we begin a new grief message this month our focus will be on how children face losses and how they express their grief.
A number of people believe that babies and small children are unaware of a loss that occurs within a family. This is not totally true. Although they don’t understand the concept of death and the loss that ensues, they do sense that something is amiss. Their parents and others are sad , and perhaps weeping. They can easily respond to this with clinging and restless behavior.
As children enter the 2-6 year age ranges they can easily sense the absence of someone loved. They are no longer there within the family or at gatherings. They ask about the person or wait for them to be present once again. There are lots of questions that await answers on their part. They can be told that their special person had become tired, weakened, or ill and has died. They have left the family and friends for a place of rest, peace, and happiness. Children brought up in a Christian home are told that heaven in that special place. God is there, and other deceased family members are there . Their dear ones are all happy and well. It is helpful to reassure children that at some point, as their lives end, they too will be able to see and be with their special persons. This can be comforting to children.
It can be noted that parents who receive the many questions about loss and death may not be able to respond adequately to the questions asked by children. They may be heavily grieving. In which case, adult family members can offer to provide the requested information. The language needs to be simple and offered in the easiest manner possible so that responses to questions are understood. Linking sadness and others feelings of loss to the explanations being given will help children to more easily accept the feelings that they are experiencing. It might be noted that when children grieve, they do so in shorter time periods. They may ask their questions, express their sad feelings , and then be off to do a favorite activity. How different from the sustained periods of grieving that adults experience!
Adolescents, who are experiencing losses of family members or friends, react in a totally different manner. They grieve, but their grief expressions may be deeply internal or very overt. There can be enraged or have a sense of unfairness about the death, especially if it was traumatic, or perhaps marked by suicide. Grief Counselors in the school setting and anguished parents make every effort to reach out and provide comfort. Teens, however, readily turn to peers to express their feelings of loss.
The behavior of teens may express an acting out of their sense of dismay at loosing someone close to them. Behaviors may become reckless, explosive, or repressed by silence and a lack of communication. Adults can offer their presence, caring, and any signs of comfort at this difficult time. Group activities like candlelight vigils or memorial gatherings are helpful, as are offers of individual counseling by professional persons.
As can be seen, expressions of grief, related to losses experienced, will vary with the age groups of children. The support of caring adults, simple answers to questions, and the opportunity to express sad feelings in safe and sincere manners will always be helpful to children, as well as teens. Participating in memorial services and funerals will help to heal grieving hearts in significant ways. Having children participate in these rituals that mark the passage from life to death can bring healing to them, especially if they are prepared for the experience by loving and caring adults.
Stations of the Cross will be held every Friday during Lent at 7:30 PM. Please join us.
Volunteers are needed to assist with shopping, meal preparation, and serving at the Community Café in Hyattsville, MD, on Wednesday, February 21st. For details, please contact Debbie Self at email@example.com or Erusa Onukwubiri at 301-805-5734.
A new year has begun, the holidays have come and gone, and we who have known loss and are grieving, wonder about what is next. What will the new year bring to our lives? Will there be continued sadness and the keenly-felt sense of loss? Can there be some reprieve?
As grief unfolds and continues to be experienced, it can lighten in intensity. The mere passing of time, however, will not bring about this outcome. It is the work and the efforts one expends in processing one’s grief that will result in needed healing and peacefulness. Healing leads to the relief of the intense sadness, the missing, and the sense that one couldn’t possibly go on and know happiness without the loved one who has died. None of this happens in rapid fashion none-the-less.
People go through their grieving and healing processes in an individual time frame and in their own personal manner. Short cuts, however, will interrupt the on-going process of healing. Comparing one’s progress with that of another is not helpful. Comparisons preclude the fact that we are all individuals, with our own personal histories and rate of grieving.
We read and learn about some basic ways of moving through grief, but as alluded to, we each have our own manner and time frame for doing that. We’ll take this opportunity to refresh our understanding of the grief process. What can or should one do to pass successfully through it?
First and foremost is the need to accept the fact that sadness and a deep sense of missing will occur after a significant loss. We cry, we talk about the emptiness felt in our lives, and question our own ability to go on without the deceased loved one. We accept the challenges that come our way early on, and rejoice over our successes in assuming unfamiliar or difficult tasks. Also, we look at priorities so we can ascertain what will now be important components of our lives. Family, friends, our health, our religious beliefs, and our God hold precedence for many. We look at difficult feelings like anger, regret, guilt, etc. and speak of them with trusted others so we can eventually let them go. And lastly, but not least of all, we reminisce. We remember the place our deceased loved one held in our lives. We express deep gratitude for the many ways they have touched and enriched our lives by being who they were for us.
It is important to remember that the sad memories of the grief process will be felt on special occasions throughout our whole lives, but the sad, painful memories soften over time. They are not as difficult to experience as they were in the early days and weeks of grieving.
A new year has begun! We can realize that with the healing energy acquired during past months of grieving we are better prepared for new undertakings, new pursuits, and a new future awaiting the “renewed and healed us”.
Funeral arrangements for Beulah George, mother of George Stewart: Wednesday, January 17th, at the Breath of Life SDA Church in Fort Washington, Maryland. Visitation will begin at 10:00 a.m. with the funeral following at 11:00 a.m. Our condolences and prayers go out to the family.
A Mass of Christian Burial will be held for Delores Richardson on Wednesday, January 17th at 10:30 AM at St. Matthias the Apostle Church, 9475 Annapolis Road, Lanham, Maryland. Burial will take place at a later date in the Hampton Roads area of Virginia. Our condolences to the family.
A Mass of Christian Burial will be held for long time parishioner, Celestine Scindian on Saturday, January 13, 2018, at 9:30 AM at St. Matthias the Apostle Church located at 9475 Annapolis Road, Lanham, Maryland. Burial will follow at Parklawn Cemetery located at 12800 Veirs Mill Road, Rockville, Maryland. Our condolences to the family.